A little-known, yet key, sexual area on the woman's body is the area below the belly button but above the pubic hair. During sexual excitement, there's a buildup of blood in that area (below the skin). Gently massage it, as if massaging out a knot in a muscle. After a short while, you will feel less tension in this area. Don 't do it for more than a minute, because it will become too tender. At this point, you might want to give her another kiss, stroke her hair, etc. . . . Remember, you 're not just with a body; you 're with another person. I recommend that you begin by reaching your hand down so that your palm and fingers are covering but not actually touching-the whole vagina. Bring your hand close enough for her to feel the warmth of it, but not the hand itself. In most cases, she will immediately push her vagina up toward your hand. Do not allow her vagina to touch your hand! Sure, perhaps you can let some of the pubic hair or the skin just around the vagina graze your hand, but don't quite touch her yet. After her body has heaved toward your hand a number of times, use two fingers--one on each side of the vaginal lips-and gently touch the warm, soft area surrounding the vaginal lips. GENTLY! This will drive her absolutely crazy.
A man who will overcome intense obstacles just to be with one woman while other women crave to be with him, is a big turn on to women. This is the power of the rake. He is smart, funny sarcastic and able to communicate well in fact in his language he can charm a woman with sensual or sexual undertone, without ever being explicit. Most women notices slight changes in body language and facial expression. So, subtle flattery and sexual suggestion is more appropriate to most women’s sensibilities.People often ask what it takes to become a better LOVEr. In many cases, this question is based on a premise that there are specific techniques and abilities that can be learned and that mastering these techniques will guarantee success as a lover. Becoming a better lover is only about providing greatest sex.
The key to becoming a better LOVEr lies in developing the ability to pay attention. This may sound simple, but it is complex and challenging. The state of sexual excitement is an intense one. It is easy to be so absorbed by your own experience and sensation or so consumed by your own desire for gratification that you lose awareness of your partner’s state. By remaining attentive to your partner and more focused on his or her pleasure than on your own, you will become a more skillful lover than anyone who has learned a variety of techniques by rote.
Learning to pay attention requires developing what is, for many, an entirely new attitude toward sexuality. There are three key elements. First, you must view sexual activity as an adventure, as something to be explored consciously. People generally expect that sex will happen “naturally” and believe that there’s no need to think much about it. While there is some truth to this notion, sex that happens unconsciously is usually not very good or satisfying. Second, you must develop the ability to communicate openly and honestly about sex, to ask your partner how he/she feels and you have to express and explain what feels good to you. Finally, if you can learn to be focused on your partner and to observe the way he or she responds, when you both reach new heights of ecstasy. Without attentiveness, technical skills are likely to fail you, but in the hands and body of an attentive lover, practices can be the tools of a master.
